When is the last time you have truly had your heart broken?
I have recently had the honor of walking alongside 4 different people who have had their hearts broken. There were multiple presentations of the "broken heart", but nevertheless, they felt broken. Broken as people?
Not sure what to think of themselves any longer, questioning their judgement, choices, surroundings, etc.
You are truly broken when you question everything about ones' self.
How does a circumstance destroy your very core? How does something have that much power over you?
The only times I have ever felt a broken heart were when my son was 14 and gravely ill for over a year. My heart felt broken, but sad broken. The other two times were when my parents died. My heart felt broken, but I wasn't.
I guess what I am wondering is if anything should have that much power over you. The type of pain that cripples you?
What is your own foundation? Can you survive this pain and if you get to a very dark spot, do you reach out to the people that you can trust, who love you, or care about you a lot.
What is your strength? Are you afraid that it is too much trouble to reach out? Are you afraid people won't care? Do you have a religious affiliation so you can lean toward your faith? Are you able to trust that those people will be there for you?
It is important as we all know suicide rates are sky high and not that you are contemplating suicide, but people can get very dark.
So I challenge you to build up your circle of true friends. My father always told me if you have 2-3 true friends in your lifetime, you are blessed. Is it easy, no, it takes time and effort and reciprocity, but it is worth it. Nurture them the way you want to be nurtured. Not just casually, but the kind of nurturing that says I truly know who you are and I love you for it.
On this journey, life will become richer and you will develop deep bonds so that if you have that dark moment, you can call upon them and vice-a-versa.
It is worth the time!